Is there anyone out there who never has those ‘teary times’? Those times of set-back that are often ‘just in your head’, but can feel like depression, sadness, futility? How is it that some days our goals are happily manifesting themselves all around us, while other days lend themselves to the doldrums, the procrastination, the “let the world pass me by today please” moments that threaten to become hours and maybe even days?

Life is Wonderful!
Life is Great!
We are so Creative, every single One of Us!

But still they come…

Can I share my own journey with these times? I know that many schools of thought tell you not to focus on them at all, but sometimes they can be so powerful when they occur, sometimes it is better to have a few techniques to draw upon mechanically when you need them!

Firstly, and perhaps most importantly, because we are always in a state of limitation whenever we are growing it is perfectly natural to feel any or all of the following: overwhelmed; frightened; confused; angry with ourselves for not knowing the answers; angry with others for representing something we don’t understand; ready to find anything or anyone who will just ease the pain for us (by taking us back to our status quo where we become robotic and cease to grow); and I’m sure you can add to this list!
Secondly, this is Normal with a capital “N”, even if historical diagnoses disagree. The world is no longer full of leaders and followers, we have moved into an Age now, (Astrological Aquarius – away from Pisces), where the world is full of Leaders. Leaders experience these feelings more than followers and believers. Because Leaders push their own boundaries, on a daily basis, even on an hourly basis! And that means YOU!

I haven’t written very much about NLP yet on this site, even though traces of it appear in much of my writing. My most recent foray into main stream NLP, for want of a better term, was attendance at a Chris Howard Weekend in Brisbane. For those of you who have been following me for a while you will be aware that I have walked the hot coals with Tony Robbins and read many books and attended many meetings on this subject. I quoted Tony Robbins in my “Start Where You Are” book when he said “Be happy when you are confused, you are learning something”. If this had been the only thing I’d got from Tony Robbins I would be forever indebted to him! Well Chris said something at his seminar too. He put it something like this: “When you set a goal for yourself obstacles arise that you haven’t had before. These obstacles are to do with your goal!” Sure, you can give up your goals and your obstacles will disappear, or, you can assess these obstacles, change your tactics and decide to manoeuvre around them or through them, whichever works!!!!

Your Astrology Cart Wheel can be helpful during the tough times too...

The world is no longer full of leaders and followers, we have moved into an Age now, (Astrological Aquarius – away from Pisces), where the world is full of Leaders. And that means YOU!

In times of emotional turmoil trying to fathom what is actually going on is hazy at best. It might feel like you are logically trying hard to intelligently manoeuvre your way out of your turmoil, and you are, cognitively, with every ounce of your energy. However, your emotions are strongest now for a good reason, that’s because they are what will move you ahead rather than backwards. You don’t have to believe me but if you decide to try this you will find it works: Know that what you are feeling is normal and be grateful for it! You are morphing into the new You! The You that you decided to become. We are forever in a state of becoming so if at this point you wish to stay the same it might comfort you to know that things never stay the same, it is only the pace and direction that differs.

By just knowing that what is happening to you at this time is normal you will instantly relax. Then opportunities are allowed to flood in and your moods can change extremely quickly from that of desperation to that of excitement for life!
Yes, it is okay to rest. You are experiencing a growth spurt after all! Have you ever watched a child grow up? They eat a lot and sleep a lot during their physical growth spurts. What about when you study hard? You get tired. Sleep and recuperation is essential for growth. And it is no different for you.

Sometimes we do need some help. The best place to start is with your diet. See your doctor and ask them to test you for iron and other nutrients. If you go to the doctor and take anti-depressants when what you need is iron, you will still need iron 6-12 months later after your course of anti-depressants! If it is anti-depressants you need for sure then ask your doctor to explain the chemical compounds and work with them to find the best solution for you. You are ultimately responsible for living your Life.
When ready start your adventure. What are your goals? Where are you heading? Movement is definitely taking place. You are heading in a direction towards a new You. It might simply be that some trigger was set off to highlight a cognitive limit. This is great!

Start Where You Are

What other help is available to you now? Remember, our whole biology goes into action during these times. It isn’t about the brain in isolation. So it is important for You to understand You. Over the years I’ve tried many different ways of dealing with these growth spurts. And many had their place. There are some methods that work better for different issues, of course. This is logical. This is what Chakra Spinach is all about – finding pathways to enjoy Life whilst owning Your Own Life in all its amazing dimensions!

Imagine this. You are sad, desperate, confused. You feel like there is nowhere to turn and no-one to turn to. You scour the internet searching for answers, if you have the energy still to do so. Maybe you just can’t physically get out of bed. You know that you have committed to people that day. You know that you want to fulfil all your promises to others but you are so drained in yourself you are frozen in a State you don’t understand. It can be as if your whole body is shutting down. Maybe you are in Shock. Maybe you have been moving ahead so well that that tiny piece of the puzzle you recently put through was the last straw. You collapse. You can’t move now even if you wanted to. Everything you’ve worked for in recent months is lost. Or is it?
In my book “Start Where You Are” I talk about cognitive dissonance and how our whole body works in unison to protect us and keep us secure. This is what is happening to you when you are in this situation. You are supposed to be feeling like you are feeling.

First technique: RELAX

Take an hour, without thought. Give this hour to yourself. Know that you are supposed to be confused. You are supposed to have these obstacles. If you perceive your goals as very large, (and everything is perception), then you may also perceive your obstacles as very large! Know that it is as simple as this. One HOUR of RELAXATION RIGHT NOW can save your Life literally! By knowing that all of this is Normal. All the Confusion, all the Obstacles, EVERYTHING is NORMAL. So the ONLY thing you have to do is give yourself One Hour.

Astrologically, the Moon’s effects are 2 hrs long. I’m sure you will have already been feeling them for nearly an Hour so one more HOUR of complete relaxation and your whole emotional psyche will have changed. Once you have done this once you will know I’m right.

After your hour of pampering and loving and sleeping blissfully in caring thoughts of nurture for yourself you are ready for the next bit.

SELF DIAGNOSIS

Vitamins and Minerals, especially and an Iron check. This is your first port of call. Fuel your body because all emotional stress is physical stress. There is no separation between Mind Body and Spirit.

Anyone who has been Reiki Attuned will have experienced first hand how you bring your body in line with your metaphysical attunement by giving up things that are not good for you and bringing in those foods and practices that are good for you! Without even trying.

ASK QUESTIONS

Automatically, our cognition wants to be right and asking questions may not come easy. Get over it. Ask Questions. Change your mind whenever it is necessary. Understand that your limited ideas are not you, they are simply where You are at for a moment in time. The next moment can find you in an unlimited world of opportunity! Change your perspective. You can’t change your perspective from your cognition. Now is the time to shift your focus towards your goal. The importance of your breakdown (for want of a better word) can be assessed better in hindsight than while you are in it. So, just for a millisecond, and that’s all it takes, focus on your dream goal. In one millisecond the door opens and this tiny strand becomes your doorway to creative health once more. You will be very surprised how quickly you move into your breakthrough the first few times you do this.  No drugs or dogma required. It is the easiest thing you will ever accomplish and it opens the doorways to all your greatest accomplishments! If your body still requires some recuperation then you’ll see, hear or feel the best way forward to incorporate and learn this for yourself.

Chakra Spinach is a Healthy Haven - an Oasis along your journey.

HELP IS ALL AROUND

There is always someone there helping us. And just a little movement from you will open new doors of assistance. In a world of constant change we affect each other every day. Today more than ever! You only have to turn on your computer to find millions of people nearby with millions of suggestions. Perhaps this is how you came to this site today? Some of the methods I have used over the years that have been helpful include: Academic Study in the Humanities, Reiki, Astrology, Psychology, Hypnosis, NLP, Mediumship. I’ve known some excellent practitioners and some that made little or no difference.

If I tell you I am going to give you the Guidelines to making your efforts work for you, but I also tell you that because everyone is different you will need to tweek yours to suit yourself how might you go about this? What about if I tell you that I am going to give you some Ideas that work for most people but for the lucky few who choose to adapt these ideas to your own Creative Force the rewards are multiplied by 1,000,000! Would you look for the moments, the situations, where those opportunities for personal input might occur? Because you look, you open up your cognition to accepting the existence of these opportunities, that are waiting for you. Then you “think tank” things

you never thought of before. Once you think of these things it becomes so simple!!! Everything is simple when you know how.

Mena Baines

November 2009

Our workshops are available for those who want to research deeper into everything discussed.

The best workshops to learn more about the above are:

**  Chakra Spinach “Body and Soul” Workshop.

Chakra Spinach Body and Soul Workshop

**  Chakra Spinach “Start Where You Are” Workshop.