All my life there has been a connection to the paranormal, whether I wanted it or not. If there is one thing I’ve learned it is that the more I learn the more there is left to learn. Why? Because the subject itself is bound up in the Nature of our Reality as Wholistic Creative Beings, and that means that nothing stays the same. As we grow and change the nature of our Reality grows and changes too. But I am grateful for all the things I continue to learn and the steps along my path that open up so many things to me.
In the more recent part of my now fifty years on the planet my investigations into this important area of my life have shared time with what seems at times diametrically opposed to such research, as I build businesses with my husband in fields totally unrelated to Chakra Spinach!
I have come to know that even while I feel that there are so many demands on my time that my esoteric pursuits seem neglected, they aren’t. They are always there and I snap back into them – or they nudge me when there is something I am to do. Sometimes it is a bit like having good friends who want to speak to you again but who understand that sometimes you have things you have to spend time on first. It is currently very much like that for me. Who are these friends? Are my own Guides keeping souls at bay for me in order for me to complete the commitments I have elsewhere? I have learned that once we create something it does take on a life of its own. Whether it is children, or business, or art, anything we create. There comes a time when our participation in the creation is reduced to that of maintenance and occasional ‘spark’ giver when needed. Sometimes, like in a business, we need to employ others who will add their own special magic to our creations and it becomes a part of them also. And Life goes on like this – when it works well. We all have a part to play.
The more esoteric world of Mediumship is no different. There are many players. There seem to be as many situations in this area as there are in our daily Lives. We find many different characters with many different intentions, just as in Life. And the esoteric world is not just one world either, it appears to be a combination of many worlds that we access when we do this work. And with this comes many questions.
I find that the easiest way for me to keep track of my own knowledge and experience building is to tell myself that ” … today my findings seem to indicate this …” and my hypothesis is stated. By stating my findings in this manner I leave my cognition open to learning more. Sometimes, just like in Life, we think our World runs in one way and then we grow, and travel, and study, and we find that we were only partly right, or we were missing a vital element and we were wrong. Many inventors and philosophers of our past have been proven wrong. Yet their work has been a great asset in the search for Truth and Understanding. All too often we get so excited about our experiences in the area of Mediumship that we just want to slot things in as Truth to be defended immediately. We are in danger of becoming zealots when we do this! No different to crusaders of past religions who experienced God in one way and thought that to be the only way possible.
I call this post: Mediumship Investigations April 2010. There will be many more of these posts to come. Each will document different aspects of my own journey and hopefully enable you to share this journey with me, for as much of it that interests you. Each investigation will deal with a question. The information I can give will never be exhaustive. There is too much to write. But I will try to be to the point.
So, our question for today:
How much impact does the spirit world have on us?
Do they drain our energy as many warn? Do some spirits cause us physical harm? Do they have no power over us at all without our Will aligning with theirs? Should we ignore everything that isn’t made of flesh and bone? Are there ways we can protect ourselves from hauntings or companionship from spirits?
Today my own findings seem to indicate the following:
Being dispassionate is important.
What is dispassion and why is it important?
When you are a friend to someone going through a hard time you are of little help to them if all you do is drown in their sorrows with them. You need to assist them to find ways through the emotional turmoil by finding the reality of the situation and manipulating either their viewpoint of where they are, by pointing out possibilities and opportunities, or by helping them to validate their sadness and emotions as a part of the grieving process (as many emotions are tied up in feelings of loss), which is a process that does not stay the same unless they want to fixate on it.
When you encounter a spiritual energy that drains you, it is no different to encountering a friend or patient who drains you becasue they are stuck in an emotional chasm. Sometimes it is this emotional chasm that feeds them and keeps them stuck. This happens, it seems, in both Worlds. Just like the emotionally stuck individual with beating heart, the emotionally stuck spirit deserves the same dispassionate response from you. It is very easy when you first start this work to think you are part of a special club just because you have met up with an over-emotional spirit tugging at you for assistance. Sometimes you might find you want to play the emotional game with the spirit where you both get off on your poor me emotional viewpoints. Yours coming from an ego boost. Theirs coming from whatever caused it.
Sometimes you might think that you have some God given proclamation that says that just because you have a spirit asking for your help you are supposed to sacrifice yourself to it. As natural Empaths all of us learn whether to buy into another’s grief or choose to be dispassionate. Dispassionate means caring and helping without abandoning ourselves. I know what it means to be ‘sucked into’ someone’s turmoil and live it as your own. I have experienced the emotional drain to great extents from the Living and the Dead. These days it is not hard for me to have encounters dispassionately. In fact, for ages my memory had somehow forgotten so much of my own pain that I thought maybe I had become so hard that I didn’t care at all. Dispassion is not a cold uncaring attitude. Quite the contrary. I recall telling a Medium Teacher that I was not ‘giving enough’ to do this work. Her disposition towards people is so beautiful and giving.
How do you get to the stage where you can be dispassionate with spirits?
The key difference for myself now and myself when I was emotionally shifted by esoteric emotions is that I now use clairvoyance as my primary method of communication. I am more in control. I am more confident in myself. I am more loving towards myself. I no longer have to prove anything to anyone or hide mistakes I’ve made as if I should be ashamed. I will say this more times over and over throughout everything I write – CONFIDENCE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU NEED FOR ANY OF THIS WORK.
Confidence is You Centring in Yourself. Do not expect You to be right every time. Expect that your knowledge and your experience will evolve with you. Many great people have made great mistakes! Being Human demands this of us. I don’t know why but today my findings seem to indicate this. So if you are currently feeling less than worthy, and you have recently been confronted by a ghost who has lost its way and wants you to take it to the pub and get smashed with it, it is probably time for you to stop and get in touch with your own Love for yourself.
This is easy for me to tell you now that I use mostly clairvoyance. If you rely on kinaesthetic communication then it is not easy to be dispassionate because it is the very communication that you receive that you rely upon to fathom what is happening in the first place. And when you do this naturally you aren’t always aware whether the feelings are yours or another soul’s. On my own path through this particular chasm of confusion I would pause when I felt overwhelmed with emotion and ask myself why I was feeling this. When spirits speak through your emotions you actully feel them, as if they were your own. However, the good thing is that they are usually in contrast to how you were feeling a just a few mintues before. When you are centred and confident in yourself you can actually ask yourself the question: “Why am I feeling like this? What has happened to make me feel this way? Is it justified? Or is it someone else’s feelings and not mine?” As you open to the spirit world you provide an invitation for the next steps in your own spiritual journey. Take your time.
My findings currently indicate that the easiest way to be dispassionate is to develop your visual abilities so that you are not soley relying on your ability to be what is referred to as ‘an Empath’. Everyone knows what an Empath is. People tell you that you have a leaking aura. You feel drained, maybe sick. Maybe you did meet a spirit long ago but you are so drained now you have forgotten all about that incident in your life. Maybe that spirit is draining every bit of energy out of you now. Maybe you are haunted by a spiritual parasite that feeds off the situations you find yourself in. Maybe you are so used to crying that you can’t remember Life ever having anything but horrible consequences for you. Maybe the highs and the lows are so exhilarating to you and your andrenalyn hungry ghost that you haven’t bothered to consider what’s happening anyway. People make decisions in Life and in After Life.
So can they harm you?
Yes, today my findings seem to indicate that they can harm you by encouraging you to make the kinds of choices that lead you into trouble. The kinds of choices they would make when alive themselves, only this time they are using you to live through. The more alcohol you take the more control they have. While you are in a state of amnesia they enjoy full control. Drugs are the same. And even frenzied dancing or invokation rituals or deep meditation can put you into these States. If they can make you feel emotions that are very strong then you may make choices that are not good for you.
This is not to say that they are any more malevalent than they were while alive.
Some Mediums seems to agree that spirits who have not gone into the light realise early that their presence close to their families draws energy from their loved ones and they do not wish to do this. However, they may be very concerned about their loved ones, concerned enough to bother someone else to do something on their behalf. My findings to date are that once you let them know that they themselves will be able to assist their families directly, when they are on the other side of the light, it comes as good news to them!
Are these those spirits who are considered ‘Earth Bound’?
Today my findings seem to indicate that they are. Today my findings indicate that those spirits who have passed through the light will never harm you and do not drain you. They don’t seem to need anything from you. They are there for you. They have a completely different energy and visually (clairvoyantly) they seem to ‘appear’ differently. Both seem to be able to make impressions on our physical being but for very different reasons. Kinaesthetically, those who have gone into the light are much more subtle in feel too. Because I switched off my auditory skills many years ago I cannot comment much on that modality.
How do we know when we have ‘picked up’ a spirit who is causing us some concern?
My findings to date are not going to give you the answers you want because it isn’t easy to know. Just as in Life we sometimes feel weary because we have been sharing space with people who drain us, we get this sometimes from the Spirit worlds too. Energy does not die and we walk through a great deal of energy in our Life, or Lives. I went through years of Reiki treatments personally to clear massive amounts of energy built up over, I think, many lives, with many individuals. My findings indicate that most of us, if not all of us, are in the same boat. You may not have cleared yours yet. Also, I discovered that I had been ‘sharing’ myself with a relative for much of my life and much of what I know today about this world was learned during those times I was half out of my body! Sometimes the feeling is quite lovely. I don’t recall feeling drained at all. I do recall feeling confused at times, and driven. I also experienced many dreams of flying. I flew so much that I almost wondered if a plane went down could I simply fly away and save my family. Was this a pact I made? Was it unfair to me? I don’t know the answer to that yet. It seemed like there were simply things that I needed to do in my life and maybe I would have been side tracked without the ‘push’.
The difference between sharing, and going it alone is a much heavier feeling of being CONFIDENT AND CENTRED.
I do know that if you ask to be confident and centred in yourself, fully cognizant of what’s happening, then you will find your answers. When we have intention the whole Universe opens up to assist us to achieve what we set out to do.
To elucidate the difference between sharing your Life with a discarnate and running it yourself consider the following:
Pretend that you found yourself within a situation where there was a great intensity of emotions around you. People were angry and arguing. Maybe the place itself was dirty to stand in. When you got home you just wanted to shower it all away. You wash away the influences of the energy you encountered. After the shower how do you feel? Like it is just you present now?
Now consider what it felt like to have a great night out with your friends. You shared the highs with them. Maybe you drank too much and you met lots of people and their energy too still invades your space now. Even when it is fun there is something niggling at you that makes you want to shower it away so that you can be more detached from it so that you can see more clearly and consider where it fits in your Life.
You want to ‘come down to Earth’ so that you ‘feel secure’.
Being Centred and Confident is a heavier feeling when you are not used to it. You don’t fly as much in your dreams any more even though your imagination can still soar. And your ability to make things happen in your Life are multiplied so Life itself is much more fulfilling. You are no longer like the eratic teenager whose hormones (or in this case emotional entities) are sending them confusing signals. You are an adult Human Being, creative and capable. But One who is able to know more than what their culture sanctions because fear is substantially reduced for you.
Of course psychology can provide us with many instances of life after emotional issues pass. And there remains the hypothesis that perhaps we are just good at reading energy and no after life exists at all. My findings to date support the reality of life after death in all its wonder, and these realities support the amazing Creative impulse of Life itself.
